You Can Be Different.

I realize that almost every single girl now, feels like they need to be a slut in order to fit in or get a guys attention. I didn't see it as much as I do now in University. Sometimes I feel like I'm the last person on earth with morals. Why do you have to dress like a prostitute to get a guy? - Oh wait, you don't. And trust me, the guys that take girls like that, those aren't the guys you want, because clearly they are the ones who just want to hit it and quit it. Every weekend I see girls sleep with a different guy and same with guys...except I see guys sleep with different girls within the same day! Why would you want a guy like that? Why do girls sit there and sleep with every guy? Sex should be something intimate...something you share with that special person who actually means something to you and isn't going to forget it or just add you to the ongoing list along with the other trophies. I wonder if these girls and guys who sleep with every other person they meet realize how much danger they are putting their selves in. A.) You are sleeping with every other person that person has already slept with and then the people the person they've slept with has slept with...and so it goes. B.) What if that person has an STD and you catch it? If you're just a one night stand, do you think they really care enough about you to even tell you? C.) What if something happens and they get you pregnant? Would you even know their name or where to find them? Would you want to tell them? Would you consider murdering that child because of YOUR mistakes?  Having sex with random people has deep consequences and furthermore, you are giving yourself a reputation that is most likely unworthy of what you truly are. Do you think that a guy/girl is going to want to fall in love, have a long-term relationship, or marry someone who has slept with dozens of other people? I wouldn't want to.
Luckily, I saved myself...unfortunately I didn't wait til marriage (I mistake on my part that I'm not proud of), but I gave my virginity to the man I will be marrying in 3 and a half months and he gave me his. I have never slept with another man and he has never slept with another woman. I don't have to wonder if he's comparing me to someone else. I don't have to compare him and think of him as any less than he is. I don't have to wonder if he has had someone better...or if he thinks of that other girl when he slept with me. Doesn't that sound a little better than thinking...hmmm I wonder if I'm good enough?
Well...you are good enough! And it's really not that hard to wait for the right person. It is possible to save yourself AND to find a partner who has also saved themselves. I promise it can happen, it happened to me. I know that waiting to have sex is really hard...especially if you have already had sex...but waiting for the right person is worth it.
Maybe I'm naive by hoping someone would listen to me...but I hope that someone will.